I am so happy to be part of the Forever Fierce Campaign focusing on empowering women at midlife and giving us a voice. I don’t even feel like I am in midlife. To me age is just a number but unfortunately our society doesn’t feel the same way. Recently I have experienced age discrimination in trying to find part time work. I was told to take off any dates on my resume that would indicate my age. I think with age we bring wisdom and experience and certainly that is of value. Is being over 40 or 50 something to be ashamed of or something to hide? This really has to change because I read too much where others are experiencing this too. I think midlife should be celebrated. That’s why I am so proud to be part of this campaign. We need a voice and we need to be heard. Please feel free to share what being Fierce at Midlife means to you at https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheFierce50/?ref=group_header
That being said, I am really enjoying this part of life. Being fierce to me means taking chances, trying something new, always learning. I started this blog because I absolutely love fashion and that doesn’t stop when you hit age 30. It is a creative outlet and I hope to inspire others to try new things. It’s a way to get your voice heard and have fun. I also have a great group of friends and family who I can laugh with, cry with and totally depend on.
I am so proud to call the following women my friends. I admire each and every one of them. Please read their stories on what it means to be Fierce at Midlife to them. Also, please check out all the Forever Fierce blogs and stories at https://catherinegraceo.com/2018-2/
XOXO Debbie Age 58 Marietta GA
Jackie, Kennesaw GA
Age 49 https://www.facebook.com/jackie.hall.313
What it is to be fierce at midlife in my late 40’s: having more knowledge than I ever did in my 20’s and 30’s and knowing what is most important: Vowing to be more patient with my family, friends, work and myself. Personally and professionally, I don’t get involve in drama. I keep my circle tight and my family comes first in my life. I embrace getting older and want to make the rest of my life a great story. I celebrate life and each year as one big adventure. My midlife wisdom to pass on is to have integrity and good character always. I embrace this midlife journey as a new beginning!
Donna, Ballground GA
Age 56 https://www.facebook.com/donna.t.melvin
Fierce in Midlife is not giving up on your dreams! Growing up I always knew I wanted to be a mom. It was a challenge for me because I did not meet the love of my life till I was in my late 30’s. While dating, the love of my life, I found out he had a vasectomy, but after discussing this, he told me he would get it reversed. I ended up getting married at 39. A few months later my husband got a vasectomy reversal and it was successful! We immediately tried to get pregnant. Month after long month went by, and I was still not pregnant. I felt like time was running out for me, because I was now in my early 40’s. We decided it was time to contact a fertility specialist. The doctor told me that I would now need surgery to take out a few fibroids and clear up some scare tissue. I felt so discouraged and wondered if I would ever be a mom. I decided to go ahead with the surgery, and it took months for me to heal from it. After I did heal from the surgery, I decided to try donor eggs. I was so hopeful this would work, but to my disappointment it failed.
At age 42, I was still yearning to be a mom, and I was not going to let anything stop me. So after giving it a lot of thought, my husband and I decided on being foster parents. Six months later we accepted our first foster child. He was a 4 month-old baby boy named Hayden. We immediately fell in love with Hayden, but did not want to get too attached because the possibility of Hayden being returned to his family. We went through a lot of challenges with Hayden’s biological family, but DFACS finally decided it was not in the best interest to put Hayden back with his family, so their rights were terminated. Needless to say, we were able to adopt Hayden and it was the best feeling in the world to finally be a mom! Midlife sure has its challenges, but being fierce and passionate about what you want, anything can happen!
Denise, Marietta GA
Age 54 https://www.facebook.com/denise.w.rogers
To me, fierce at midlife is all about taking control, control of my health, my future, and how I choose to live my life every day. Looking at life as an educational journey has helped me learn from all the challenges and have absolutely no regrets. All the events in my life have made me who I am. This is the time to be happy with the woman I’ve become, not worry about what others think of me, and absolutely take no crap. But I never stop learning or trying to better myself as these are what keep me relevant. Ferocity is also about staying young at heart. After all we are all 20-somethings inside our midlife bodies. And if I want to live my life in jeans, a t-shirt and flip flops, so be it.
Deanna, Marietta GA
Age 54 https://www.facebook.com/deanna.schuelke
At your midlife point you begin to realize that time goes by so quickly. Being adopted at birth and being raised by My father and grandparents it was such a good thing. Many people are stuck on the fact you are different. Everything I stand for today I have them to thank. I look back and have realized they shaped me with their discipline and structure in their small town which makes you appreciate the “BIG” City life pace. After going through some rough patches in my life I found myself going back to what made me who I am today. My Family. Going forward my goal is to help and encourage people who are less fortunate than I am but also keeping and moving through life fiercely
Kim, Lake Lanier
Fellow Forever Fiercers – I am now in my 50’s, and I am so excited for the next phase of my life. I am a recent empty nester after raising three children as a single parent. Boy, that was hard, and I know my job never ends as a parent. However, I am excited that my kids are becoming awesome adults. I am excited that I down-sized from a large home to a more manageable house at the lake. As I have worked hard through the years in my career, I have gained confidence and financial stability so I am able to be self-employed and cut back on the number of days I work per week. I am so excited about what the future holds, including (in time) grandchildren!
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“No words can express, The depth of her contentment, As she walks along the beach. As the waves lap against the shores, They create the rhythm of her life. Balmy breeze kiss, Her sun-bronzed skin, And she wonders… Could there ever be a greater destiny, Than to be born with a love, For the treasures of the sea? Here, she is home.”
This quote describes exactly I feel about the beach! And how lucky am I to have a brother who recently moved to Navarre Beach, Florida? This was my first winter visit to the beach and it won’t be my last. On this day the weather was gorgeous with almost 60 degrees and weather here in Atlanta was in the 30’s. The water was calm and the clearest I’d ever seen.
For a casual winter day at the beach, I dressed in layers and it was perfect. The black quilted slip on sneakers are so comfortable and I wear them with many casual looks.
It is truly my “Happy Place.”
Everything was so quite and we pretty much had the beach to ourselves.
I take a picture of this bridge every time I go. The sun always looks so beautiful shining on the water, like glittering diamonds!!
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This time of the year, I always want to get back in shape after splurging during the holidays. I am turning this into a healthy new year. There are so many cookbooks in my kitchen bookcase that I hardly ever use, so I pulled out a few recently. I made some little bookmarks and marked the recipes I thought looked good. And boy, did I find some. Sometimes we get into such a rut preparing the same meals from week to week. I prepared three new recipes from the cookbooks above and they were so good! My husband and I tend to eat too much meat so I picked a meatless main which we both enjoyed very much. And I will continue to incorporate more meatless main dishes into our diet.
My diet isn’t the only thing that suffered during the holidays, I just didn’t exercise much either. So today, I took a long walk and listened to an inspirational show. I have to say, it felt so good and cleared my mind of some of the clutter I’ve been experiencing. Doing yoga once a week also helps because I always come out of it feeling so grounded and balanced. I am hoping to get back to some running in the spring. That is the only thing that really seems to take off some pounds at my age. After fifty, it just keeps getting harder to do. But with starting a new career, I have to make time for exercise, not just for losing weight but to ease stress too. What are some of the things you are doing to start a healthier New Year?
I always love the start of the new year. A time to reflect on what we’ve accomplished in the last year and plan our goals for the new year. I am definitely reinventing myself this year. I have started this new fashion and design blog and I am beginning my training as a real estate agent this month. I am taking a leap of faith and turning my passions into my careers. I started as an accountant and then had my own interior decorating company for many years. I am so looking forward to helping clients with staging and selling their homes and helping them find their dream homes. I also absolutely love fashion and don’t think that it should end at a certain age. I get asked often where I shop so I look forward to sharing my outfits and advice on where to shop for the best deals. I love duplicating a high end look with affordable pieces.
So with my new 2017 planner and notebook full of ideas, I plan on setting new goals and mapping out a successful, happy year and I hope you can do the same.